Are you looking to spice things up in your marriage or with your partner? Do you find yourself coming home and the last thing on your mind is romantic time? Remember this: a monogamous relationship does not need to be boring.

Sexless relationships may be more common than you think. A study found that 15.2 percent of males and 26.7 percent of females between the ages of 18-89 reported not having sex in the past year (even if they were in a relationship).

Have no fear! We are here to help you spice up and improve your love life. 

1.  Get Out of the Bedroom

Try to make your life less routine—especially your sex life. One of the easiest ways to do this is to get out of your bedroom. You have an entire house or apartment, so you might as well use it!

You can try the shower, the car, the kitchen, or just about anywhere you like. If you have kids, just wait until they are asleep. You don’t have to limit yourself to the bedroom.

2. Bring Accessories

Adult products are meant to be fun, not take over a job for someone else. They are a novelty for you and your partner to enjoy together. Try wearing a device, using sex toys, or finding a special lube or cream. Shop together or surprise your partner—either way, can be fun!

3. Enhance Your Foreplay

Foreplay is more than just getting you ready for sex. It gets your whole body ready and helps you enjoy this time with your partner. Mix it a bit!

Try an oil massage or playing a game. You don’t have to be naked to be ready for sex because sex is just as a mental and physical activity, so do something that turns you on!

4. Discuss Your Fantasies

Your sex life doesn’t have to be boring. Almost everyone has a fantasy, but many people never share them with their partners.

This can prevent you from getting what you want out of your sex life. Spice up your love life by telling your partner your fantasies. Communication during sex is key to enjoyment. If your fantasy involves role play, try it out! 

5. Wear Your Lingerie

Don’t let your lingerie sit in the back of your drawer. Wear it! You don’t need to wear it only on special occasions.

If you have a dinner date, wear it under your clothes so you don’t have an awkward costume change. You can surprise your partner when you start getting hot and heavy.

6.  Invest in Lube

Lube is very underused and is something you should have in your arsenal. It’s a tool that can help you have more friction and less discomfort, letting you have better sex. You can try water-based or oil-based lube, but stay away from silicone-based unless you are going to use it on silicone toys.

7. Play a Sex Game

Try a sex game. It doesn’t just have to be strip poker. You can make up just about anything.

Assign a sexual favor to a number on the dice and roll. Or set a timer and touch each other for that amount of time. There are so many ideas out there to have some good fun (and you can do it with just about any game).

Go Ahead Enhance Your Love Life

Your love life should be fun with your partner. It’s easy to get in a rut with everyday life, but make sure you take the time to spice it up with your partner. Try one (or all) of these ways to enhance your relationship—and simply have fun!

Check out some other guy advice on our site to help you keep falling in love with your partner.

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